The wholeness of life
Once a circle missed a wedge.
The circle wanted to be whole,
so it went around looking for its missing piece.
But because it was incomplete
and therefore could roll only very slowly,
it admired the flowers along the way.
It chatted with worms. It enjoyed the sunshine.
It found lots of different pieces, but none of them fit.
So it left them all by the side of the road
and kept on searching.
Then one day the circle found a piece that fit perfectly.
It was so happy.
Now it could be whole, with nothing missing.
It incorporated the missing piece into itself and began to roll.
Now that it was a perfect circle,
it could roll very fast,
too fast to notice flowers or talk to the worms.
When it realized how different the world seemed
when it rolled so quickly,
it stopped, left its found piece by the side of the road
and rolled slowly away.
The lesson of the story, I suggested,
was that in some strange sense
we are more whole when we are missing something.
The man who has everything is in some ways a poor man.
He will never know what it feels like to yearn, to hope,
to nourish his soul with the dream of something better.
He will never know the experience of having someone
who loves him give him something
he has always wanted or never had.
There is a wholeness about the person
who has come to terms with his limitations,
who has been brave enough to let go of his unrealistic dreams
and not feel like a failure for doing so.
There is a wholeness about the man or woman
who has learned that he or she is strong enough
to go through a tragedy and survive,
she can lose someone and still feel like a complete person.
Life is not a trap set for us by God
so that he can condemn us for failing.
Life is not a spelling bee,
where no matter how many words you've gotten right,
you're disqualified if you make one mistake.
Life is more like a baseball season,
where even the best team loses one third of its games
and even the worst team has its days of brilliance.
Our goal is to win more games than we lose.
When we accept that imperfection is part of being human,
and when we can continue rolling through life and appreciate it,
we will have achieved a wholeness
that others can only aspire to.
That, I believe, is what God asks of us-
not " Be perfect" , not " Don't even make a mistake",
but " Be whole."
If we are brave enough to love,
strong enough to forgive,
generous enough to rejoice in another's happiness,
and wise enough to know
there is enough love to go around for us all,
then we can achieve a fulfillment
that no other living creature will ever know.