It can be difficult to make friends
living in a big city,
especially when you
don't know many people.
生活在一个大城市里
是很难交到朋友的，
尤其是当你还不认识很多人的时候。
Over years of experience
and studying social skills,
I discovered
that it's possible to make friends
without even trying.
根据多年的经验以及对社交技能的研究，
我发现其实你
甚至能毫不费力地交到朋友。
There are just a few strategies
that you have to use on
a consistent basis.
这里有一些
你一直可以用得上的方法
That's what I'll outline a few simple steps.
在这里我将列出几个简单的步骤。
1.
Be seen without trying
to get attention.
不刻意地引人注意
也能获得他人的注意。
You don't have to say anything witty
or interesting to get people's attention,
all you have to do
is place yourself in environments
where people will see you.
你不必说诙谐或有趣的事情
来吸引人们的注意，
你所要做的只是将你自己
置于人们能注意到的地方。
This can be done anywhere you go,
such as the supermarket
or your yoga studio.
这可以在你去的任何地方奏效，
比如超市或是瑜伽馆。
2.
Use the power of listening.
使用倾听的力量
There's an interesting phenomenon
that occurs when you
listen to other people,
they'll keep talking.
有一个有趣的现象，
当你听别人说话时
他们会一直说话。
Just keep giving them good eye contact
and show with your body language
that you care.
只要和他们保持良好的眼神接触，
并用你的身体语言显示出
你对他们的关心。
Listening is a mechanism
to build trust and likeability.
倾听是一种
建立信任和魅力的途径。
3.
Think about what you can
give to the other people.
想想你能给别人什么。
So often we think about
what we can get out of others
when we try to make friends,
but that thinking needs
to be flipped around.
当我们试图交朋友的时候，
我们经常会考虑我们能从别人那里得到什么，
但是我们需要扭转这种想法。
Try offering a piece of helpful advice
or invite someone you just met to grab coffee
or lunch with you the following week.
试着提供一个有用的建议或
邀请你刚才遇到的人来喝杯咖啡，
或者邀请他在接下来的一周
和你一起共进午餐。
4.
Always have 3 good stories
to tell other people.
总是有3个好故事来告诉别人。
When you have at least
a few stories to share with others,
you'll never run out of things to talk about.
当你至少有几个故事与他人分享时，
你将永远有谈不尽的话题。
5.
Smile like there's no tomorrow.
尽情微笑。
It may not be natural for some of us to smile,
but a smile is one of the most attractive things
that someone can display
when they're meeting new people.
对有些人来说，
微笑可能是件不自然的事情，
但是微笑是最有吸引力的事情之一，
当结识新人时，
人们可以传递他们的微笑。
Think about these 5 strategies as tools.
They're always available
if you want to connect with people instantly
and develop true lasting friendships.
我们可以把这5种策略作为工具，
如果你想与人立即建立关系，
并且发展成真正长久的友谊，
它们总是有用的。
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