让我们来聊一聊原谅这件事。只要你一直无法做到原谅，你就会永远痛苦。如果你继续选择生气、选择怨恨，此时此刻的你又能有多开心呢？无论别人做过什么，无论你自己多有理，痛苦的想法都无法带来快乐。如果你一直抓住过去不放，你永远不会得到自由。原谅自己，原谅他人，你就不会被你的过去囚禁。
When you feel that you are stuck in some situation or when your affirmations are not working, it usually means there is some more forgiving to be done. When you do not flow freely with life in the present moment, it usually means you are holding on to a past moment. It can be regret, sadness, hurt, fear or guilt, blame, anger, resentment and sometimes a desire for revenge. Each one of these states comes from a space of unforgiveness, a refusal to let go and to come into the present moment.
当你感到你身陷囹圄，当你感到无论自己多么积极都是徒劳的，这通常意味着你还需要原谅更多人、更多事。如果现在你无法自由地生活，这通常意味着你还没能放下过去。你可能感到后悔、失落、伤心、恐惧、愧疚、委屈、愤怒、怨恨，甚至有时你会想报复。这些情绪都是因为你还没能做到原谅，你拒绝放手，你拒绝活在当下。
Only in the present moment can you create your future. If you are holding on to the past, you cannot be in the present. It is only in this now moment that your thoughts and words are powerful. So you really don't want to waste your current thoughts to continue to create your future from the garbage of the past. When you blame another, you give your own power away because you are placing the responsibility for your feelings on someone else. People in our lives may behave in ways that trigger uncomfortable responses in us. However, they did not get into our minds and create the buttons that have been pushed. Taking responsibility for our own feelings and reactions is mastering our ability to respond.
只有活在当下，你才能创造未来。如果你一直对过去耿耿于怀，你就无法专注于当下。只有在当下，你的想法，你的话语，才是有力量的。所以，你一定不会想浪费你现在的思绪、带着不堪的过去来创造你的未来。当你埋怨他人时，你主动放弃了自己的力量，会因为你让别人为你自己的感受负责。在我们的生命中，有些人可能让我们感到不适，然而他们并没有左右我们的思想。为自己的感受和反应负责，意味着掌握我们作出回应的能力。
In other words, we learn to consciously choose rather than simply react. Forgiveness is a tricky and confusing concept for many people. There is a difference between forgiveness and acceptance. Forgiving someone does not mean that you condone their behavior. And the act of forgiveness takes place in your own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person. The reality of true forgiveness lies in setting ourselves free from holding on to the pain. It is simply an act of releasing yourself from the negative energy.
换句话说，我们学着去有意识地做出选择，而不仅仅是消极地回应。对于很多人而言，原谅是很困难的，是很令人困惑的。原谅某人并不意味着你宽恕了他们的行为。原谅发生在你的心里，与他人无关。事实上，原谅意味着让自己不再被痛苦束缚。这只是一个让自己从负能量中解脱的行为而已。
Also, forgiveness does not mean allowing the painful behaviors or actions of another to continue in your life. Sometimes forgiveness means letting go. You forgive them and release them. Taking a stand and setting healthy boundaries is often the most loving thing you can do not only for yourself but for the other person as well. No matter what your reasons are for having bitter unforgiving feelings, you can go beyond them. You can get off it. You can let it go. You only live in the now. And you can choose to think thoughts that make you feel good right now. You can choose to practice thinking thoughts that create a positive today and tomorrow. Know that you are creating thinking habits that will serve you well forever.
与此同时，原谅并不意味着你允许他人那令你感到痛苦的行为继续纠缠你的生活。有时候，原谅意味着放手。你原谅他人，你宽恕他人。明确你的立场，设立合理的边界，这往往是你能为自己和为他人做的、最博爱的事。无论你感到痛苦、感到自己无法原谅他人的理由是什么，你都能克服它们。你能摆脱它们。你能放手。你只活在当下。你可以选择去一些让自己感到愉悦的感受。你可以选择去练习积极地思考，用积极的想法点亮每一个今天、每一个明天。你要明白，思维习惯是你自己创造的，它们会让你受益一生。
Positive affirmations for achieving forgiveness. The door to my heart opens inwards. I move through forgiveness to love. As I change my thoughts the world around me changes. The past is over. So it has no power now. The thoughts of this moment create my future. It is no fun being a victim. I refuse to be helpless anymore. I claim my own power. I give myself the gift of freedom from the past and move with joy into the now. There is no problem too big or too small that it cannot be solved with love.
关于原谅的积极话语：我的心门向里打开。我先原谅，再去爱。我的想法改变，我周围的世界也会随之改变。过去已经结束，它已经不能左右我了。我当下的想法创造我的未来。当一个受害者是很无趣的。我再也不要让自己无助了。我的力量我做主。我将自由送给我自己，我不再纠结于过去，而是满怀欣喜地面对当下。于我而言，爱能解决所有大大小小的问题。
I am ready to be healed. I am willing to forgive. And all is well. I know that old negative patterns no longer limit me. I let them go with ease. As I forgive myself it becomes easier to forgive others. I forgive myself for not being perfect. I am living the very best way I know how. It is now safe for me to release all of my childhood traumas and move into love. I forgive everyone in my past for all perceived wrongs. I release them with love. All of the changes in life that lie before me are positive ones and I am safe.
我已经做好准备让自己得到治愈。我愿意原谅。一切都很美好。我知道，消极的思维习惯再也不能束缚我了。我平静地放手，让它们离开。当我原谅了自己，原谅他人就更容易了。我原谅不那么完美的自己。我在以我认为最好的方式生活。我能放心地将我所有的童年创伤放下，去拥抱爱。我原谅每个在我生命中犯下错误的人。我怀着爱，不再对他们耿耿于怀。未来所有的改变都是积极的，我感到安心。
You have a choice. You can choose to stay stuck and bitter or you can do yourself a favor by willingly forgiving the past and let it go and then move on to create a joyous fulfilling life. You have the freedom to make your life anything you want it to be, because you have freedom of choice.
你有一个选择。你可以选择让自己困在过去、一直悲哀，你也可以选择自我救赎，主动原谅过去，放下过去，往前走，创造快乐的、充实的生活。你拥有自己去塑造人生的自由，因为你拥有选择的自由。
