1. YOU MUST ACCEPT IMPERFECTION AND FLAWS
1.你必须接受不完美和瑕疵
Many people believe that if they just collect a house, a spouse, a car, and 2.5 children, everything will be "perfect". Life has a checklist. Problems don't go away; they change and evolve. And the quicker we accept that the point of life is progress, and not perfection, the sooner we can all order a pizza and go home. Perfection is an idealization. It's something that is approached but never reached. Whatever your conception of "perfect" is in your pretty little head, it is in itself, an imperfect concept. There is no perfect. There is only what you wish in your head.
很多人相信，如果他们买了房子，找到了伴侣，有一辆车，生了几个孩子，一切事情就会变得“完美”。生活有一个任务清单。问题不会消失;他们会改变，会进化。我们越快得接受生活的重点不在于完美，而在于进步，我们就能早点轻松地生活。完美是一个理想化的概念。这是我们可以不断接近，但永远不会达成的事物。无论你脑袋里对于“完美”的概念是什么，它只存在于你的脑袋里，一个不完美的概念。世界上不存在完美。只有你脑海里对自己的期望。
We don't get to decide what perfection is. We don't know. All we can know is what is better or worse than what is now. And even then we're often wrong. When we let go of our concept of what is perfect and what "should" be, we relieve ourselves of the stress and frustration of living up to some arbitrary standard. And usually this standard isn't even ours! It's a standard we adopted from other people. Accepting imperfection is hard, because it forces us to accept that we have to live with things we don't like.
我们没办法决定什么是完美。因为我们不知道。我们只知道什么是比现在更好的或者更坏的。即使如此，我们的想法也经常是错误的。当我们放下了我们对于“完美”的定义和生活“应该”怎么过的想法，我们就把自己从要以一个主观标准来生活的压力和挫败中解放出来。这个标准甚至不来源于我们自己!这个标准是我们从其他人那得来的。接受不完美是很艰难的，因为这迫使我们要去接受并适应我们不喜欢的事情。
2. YOU MUST TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR PROBLEMS
2.你必须对自己的问题负起责任
Blaming the world for our problems is the easy way out. It's tempting and it can even be satisfying. We're the victims and we get to be all emo and indignant at all of the terrible injustices that have been inflicted upon us. We wallow in our imagined victimhood so as to make ourselves feel unique and special in ways we never got to feel unique and special anywhere else. But our problems are not unique. And in ourselves we are not all that special. The beauty of accepting the imperfection of your own knowledge is that you can no longer be certain that you're not to blame for your own problems.
将自己的问题归咎于这个世界是一种轻松的方式。这很诱惑，甚至可以使你满足。我们是受害者，我们可以对我们遭受的可怕的不公正的事情感到激愤。我们沉湎于自己幻想出的受迫害情景，好让我们感受到一种不能从其他地方感受的感觉，我们是独一无二的，是特别的。但我们的问题不是独一无二的。并且我们也并不是那么特别。接受自身不完美的美好之处在于，你不再确定自己的问题不归咎于自身。
Are you really late because of traffic? Or could you have left earlier? Is it really the incompetence of your manager that lost you your promotion? Or was there something more you could have done? The truth is usually somewhere around "both", - although it varies from situation to situation. But the point is that you can only fix your own imperfections and not the imperfections of others. So you may as well get to work on them. Blaming others for the problems in your life may give you a smidgen of short-term relief, but ultimately it implies something entirely insidious: that you are incapable of controlling your own fate. And that's the most depressing assumption of all to live with.
你真是是因为交通问题而迟到吗?还是你本可以早点出发?你没有升职真的是因为经理的失职吗?还是你自己本来能做更多的事得到升职?事情的真相可能是两方面的原因都存在，-虽然这会因为情况不同而不同。但重点在于你只能完善自己不完美的地方而不是别人的。所以你也许该开始行动了。把自己生活的问题归咎于其他人身上或许可以给你一点短暂的解脱，但这最终暗示了一些隐藏的问题：你无法掌控自己的命运。而这是所有你可能要接受的事情中最令人沮丧的一个假设。
3. YOU MUST FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY
3.你必须感受自己的恐惧，并无论如何也要做下去
Bravery is not the absence of fear. Bravery is feeling the fear, the doubt, the insecurity, and deciding that something else is more important. IF we identify with our moment-to-moment emotional states and sensitivities, our happiness will surge and crash like a deregulated Wall Street derivatives orgy. For those of you who don't know anything about Wall Street: that's really bad. We want sturdy, resilient happiness. Not derivatives orgies.
勇敢不是不害怕。勇敢是感知恐惧，怀疑，不安全感并认为相比这些，其他的更为重要。如果我们感知我们每时每刻的敏感的情绪波动，我们的幸福会像不受管制的华尔街衍生品*狂欢一样激增或陡降。告知给那些不了解华尔街的人：这种情况非常糟糕。我们想要坚定，坚韧的幸福。而不是衍生品狂欢。
True, long-lasting, kid-tested-and-mother-approved happiness, is not derived from our immediate emotional states - being constantly greedy is not only impossible but it would be unbearably annoying - but rather is derived from the deeper values we define for ourselves. Our Ultimate Life Satisfaction is not defined by what we do and what happens to us, but why we do what we do and why it happens to us.
真实的，持久的，有保障的幸福并不来源于我们瞬间的感情状态 - 对幸福太贪心不仅不可能得到幸福，而且会承受无法忍受的厌烦 - 而来源于我们为自己定义的深层价值。我们根本的生活满意度并不由我们做了什么和什么事情在我们身上发生决定，而是由为什么我们会做这些事和为什么这些事会在我们身上发生决定。
4. YOU MUST FIND A DEEPER PURPOSE TO YOUR ACTIONS
4.你必须找到你行动的深层原因
A better way of saying this is you must choose what is motivating you. Is it something superficial and external or something deeper and more meaningful?
一个更好的说法是你必须选择是什么在激励你。是很肤浅和表面的动机，还是一些更内在，更有意义的动机?
Being motivated by money for the sake of money leads to unstable emotional regulation and a lot of obnoxious and superficial behavior. Being motivated by money so that one can provide a good life for their family and children is a much sturdier foundation to work with. That deeper purpose will motivate one through the stress and fear and inevitable complications that a more superficial motivation would not.
单纯为了赚钱而赚钱会导致不稳定的情感控制和很多令人反感的，肤浅的行为。为了给家挺和孩子提供更好的生活而赚钱是一个更坚定的基础。这种更深层的目的可以激励一个人跨越压力，恐惧和不可避免的难题，但是一个肤浅的动机不行。
Being motivated by the approval of others leads to needy and unattractive behavior. Being motivated by the approval of others because you're an artist and you would want to construct art that moves and inspires people in new and powerful ways is far more sustainable and noble. You'll be able to work through disapproval, embarrassments and the occasional disaster.
为了获得他人的肯定而行动会导致你做出讨好性和令人讨厌的行为。为了获得他人的肯定，因为你是个艺术家，你希望创作出可以以一种新的，强有力的方式去感动和启发别人的艺术而获得肯定是更持久和高尚的动力。你可以跨越否定，窘迫和偶然的灾难。
How does one find their deeper purpose? Well, it's not easy. But then again, robust and resilient life-long happiness isn't easy either. But here's a hint: it is something to do with growth and contribution. Growth means finding a way to make yourself a better person. Contribution means finding a way to make other people better. Look for ways that can integrate those into your motivations.
人们如何找到他们更深层的目的?是的，这并不容易。但是话说回来，坚定，坚韧和一生的幸福也不是容易得到的。但这有一个提示：幸福是与成长和奉献有关的。成长意味着是你变成一个更优秀的人。奉献意味着找到一种方式使别人更优秀。想办法把他们融合进你的动力。
There's nothing wrong with sex, money and rock and roll (hey, preaching to the choir here). But the sex needs to be motivated by something deeper than sex, the money needs to be motivated by a value more sustainable than simply money, and the rock and roll needs to just rock. Find a way to slide growth and/or contribution under them，and bam，you get the best of both worlds.
性，金钱和摇滚乐没有任何错(嘿，我在这向合唱团宣传)。但是性需要有比性更深层的动力去追求，赚钱需要因为获得比钱更长久的价值而去赚钱，而摇滚乐只需要摇滚。找到一种方式把成长和/或奉献作为动力的基础，然后，嘭，你能得到更好的世界。
5. YOU MUST BE WILLING TO FAIL AND BE EMBARRASSED
5.你必须不害怕失败和遭受窘迫
The beautiful thing about humanity is the diversity of life values. When you live out your values and let them motivate your actions and behaviors, you will inevitably clash with those whose values contradict your own. These people will not like you. They will leave nasty anonymous comments on the internet and make inappropriate remarks about your mother. Anything you do that's important will inevitably be accompanied by those who wish for you to fail. Not necessarily because they're bad people, but most likely because their values differ from yours.
人类的一个美好的地方在于价值观的多样性。当你建立了你的价值观，并让之驱动你的行动时，你会不可避免和与和你秉持不同价值观的人产生冲突。这些人会不喜欢你。他们会在网上留下恶劣的匿名评论并咒骂你的母亲。你在做任何重要的事时，总会不可避免地有希望你失败的人伴随着你。并不一定是因为他们是坏人，只是很大可能因为他们的价值观不同于你。
"Haters gonna hate."
“仇恨者只会仇恨。”
In any venture, failure is required to make progress. And progress, by definition, is what drives happiness - the progress of ourselves, the progress of others, the progress of our values and what we care about. Without failure there is no progress and without progress there is no happiness.
在任何冒险里，失败对于进步是必要的。而进步，按照定义来说，可以带来幸福 - 我们自身的进步，他人的进步，我们价值观的进步和我们关心的东西的进步。如果没有失败，就没有进步。而没有进步，就没有幸福。
The most important skill in life is not how to avoid getting knocked down, but rather learning how to stand back up. Haters gonna hate.
生活中最重要的技能不是如何避免被打倒，而是学习如何站起来。仇恨者只会仇恨。
*Wall Street derivatives:华尔街衍生品，指金融衍生品。金融衍生品交易种类很多，最常见的三大品种为：股指期货，利率期货，汇率期货以及相对应的期权交易。
