Feeling Loved

Feeling loved and knowing that you are worthy of love are necessary to creating or maintaining any relationship .

Lance and Rebecca were already married with a son when Lance enrolled in law school . Three years later Lance was the only student in his graduating class still married to the same person .Lance and Rebecca both admit ,however ,that those years were "terrible".

Rebecca said ,"I felt like Lance was in law school and I was knee-deep in changing diapers,but that there wasn't really a'we."

Their relationship continued in a state of wedded mediocrity after law school .Then eight years later a doctor told Rebecca she had a terminal disease.

" I didn't want anything fixed .I wanted to be hugged and held,"Rebecca remembers."But Lance ran away."

Eventually ,another doctor caught the misdiagnosis.Rebecca's health improved dramatically.The emotional healing,however ,took longer.

"For me ,it's leting go of resentments and scars for the years when I felt alone and then when I thought I was dying,"she said."I know I'm loved ,and I will always be loved .And Lance is trying harder to show it in all kinds of ways .To love so much that you are always there."