问：在20多岁应该学会的东西中，你认为哪些最为吃力?
Answered by Arjuna Perkins
Arjuna Perkins的回复：
Here are some of the things my 20's have taught me.
以下是我20多岁时学会的一些东西：
1. Humility. This is the decade of failure. And that's ok - it's probably the first time in your life you've had to contend with most of the things you're taking on. Supporting yourself, managing your time / stress / relationships, figuring out what role you want work / study / spirituality / etc. to play in your life. Very few get through their 20's without some serious soul searching and questioning of fundamental beliefs and habits... And I don't envy those who do. This is the best time in your life to be making mistakes. It gets steadily less socially acceptable as you progress in age, so go crazy!
1.谦虚恭谨。这是充满挫折的十年，不过不要紧，这可能是你人生中首次必须自己一人应对大部分事情。你要养活自己，规划好时间，平衡各种压力，处理人际关系，还得弄清楚你希望工作、学业、精神信仰等等在你的人生中占有的份量。很少有人在其20多岁时未曾经历过深刻的自我反省，对自己的基本信仰与行为习惯产生质疑……就算有这样的人，我也不嫉妒他们。这是你人生中去犯错的最佳时机。随着年龄的增长，社会对你犯错的包容度会越来越小。所以，尽情的去疯吧!
2. Honesty. You don't get away with anything. Anything. If you're full of it, people will see that, no matter how vainly you struggle to hide it. The truth has a way of rearing its ugly head, so the sooner you can come to integrity with yourself and the world at large, the sooner you'll be able to get working towards what you really want, who you really want to be. That ugly person you may think you are inside is actually going to be the most compelling, most interesting, most powerful manifestation of yourself.
2.坦诚处世。你无法在任何事上蒙混过关。没错，任何事情!无论你多么枉费心机去掩饰，人们都会看出你表里不一的地方。而这样的事情终会带来不良的影响，所以你越早坦诚面对自己和整个世界，就能越早开始着手于你想要什么，以及你想成为什么样的人。这样你内心一时所厌恶的这个你，却将成为一个最叫人信服、最令人感兴趣且最有力的你自己。
3. Health. You also don't get away with self-abuse. Just because you can stay up all night drinking doesn't mean it's not taking its toll on your body. You get a bit older, and you start to meet people in their 30s, 40s, 50s who kept up that lifestyle, and believe me, you don't want to be one of them. Have your fun, but remember: they call it excess for a reason. Eat well (whatever that means to you), get exercise, get enough sleep, and try to have a steady sex life if you possibly can.
3.保持健康。放纵终会带来恶果。仅仅因为你有精力通宵不眠饮酒作乐，并不意味着这些没有在侵害你的健康。当你再添几岁，碰见30，40，50多的人仍继续着这样的生活，相信我，你不会想变的和他们一样。你可以享受人生，但要记得：这些行为之所以会被冠以“过度”一词，自然是有原因的。要健康饮食(无论它对你意味着什么)，坚持锻炼，保持充足睡眠和，如果可以的话，规律的性生活。
4. Having said that, pay close attention to who you find yourself attracted to. They will tell you more about yourself than almost anything else.
4.话又说回来，还要记得多注意哪些人吸引你，他们会让你更加清晰地认识自己是什么样子的。
5. Get used to being wrong. Conviction can be a symptom of narrow-mindedness. Chances are, whatever you believe now will be out the window at some point in your future, so get used to being open to other assessments of what's true. Chances are also that someone out there - maybe a lot of someones - knows a lot more about X, Y and Z than you do. Let go of having to be right about things - this isn't a contest. It's not a game. You don't win at life. So say, "Thanks for your perspective. I'll think about that." or "I was wrong. I'm sorry."
5.看淡错误。坚信与偏执仅一线之隔。你现在深信不疑的事情很有可能会在将来的某一刻突然崩坍，所以要开始习惯听取别人的正误观。也有可能有人，可能有很多人，在许多方面了解的都比你多。不必执着于对错，因为这不是一场比赛，不是一场游戏。生活里没有赢家。所以遇到别人的质疑，你应该说：“感谢你的建议，我会仔细考虑一下。”或者“对不起，是我错了。”
6. Perseverance. You will fail in life, over and over and over. It won't feel fair. Maybe for decades. You've got to keep moving forward. Keep going. Keep going!
6.坚持不懈。生命之中，可能数十年都会挫折不断。这让你感觉不公，但你必须一直向前看。坚持不懈，永不言弃!
Oh, and don't forget to have fun along the way! Enjoy any moment you possibly can.
对了，不要忘记且行且开心!尽可能去享受每一刻。
