You want to always make sure that your guests are at ease,...

你总是想给客人一种宾至如归的感觉…

...and the only way to do that, I think,...

…我觉得做到这一点的唯一办法是…

...is if you kind of pull them into the process.

…让他们参与进来。

For example, the new girlfriend of a friend who nobody knows,...

比如， 我一个朋友新交的女朋友，没有一个人认识她…

...I have her come in the kitchen,...

…我就把她请进厨房…

...help me sort of rip up some bread or prepare hors d'oeuvres.

…让他帮忙撕点面包，准备一些饭前点心。

And that way, she gets involved, we start talking,...

就这样，她有参与感了，我们开始闲聊了…

...it takes a lot of the pressure off.

…这样就让她感觉轻松多了。

She gets the idea that we're trying to produce something beautiful,...

她能感受到我们正试着做出一些美好的东西…

...but it is not make-or-break.

…但不是那种不成功就必定失败的。