Dear Annie: My wife of 50 years and I are at animpasse. A year ago, her 30-year-old daughter,Carol, moved in with us and brought her dogs along.Carol has a good job, but contributes nothing andhas absolutely no responsibilities. Her mother and Ido her laundry and cook her meals, feed and walkthe dogs, and clean up the fur and poop. Carol goesto work and hangs out with her friends. She is livingthe good life while we do everything for her.Shouldn't adult children contribute both financiallyand by helping out? I have talked this over with mywife, but she will not change her stance. I am seriously thinking of leaving her. Maybe I couldfind someone willing to take responsibility for me so I can live the good life, too. - Larry IsLosing

亲爱的安妮： 我的妻子50岁了。最近我和她闹僵了。一年前，她30岁的女儿卡罗尔搬来和我们一起住，还带来了她养的的狗。卡罗尔虽然有一份好工作，但是对这个家却难言尽责。我和她的母亲给她洗衣、做饭、养狗、遛狗、给狗洗澡、清理狗粪。卡罗尔上班、和朋友出去玩。她过得很滋润，但我们要为她打理一切。 成年子女不该给予父母财力支持和其它帮助吗?我与我的妻子谈过这事，但她没有改变立场。我正在很认真地考虑，是不是应该离开她。也许我能找到愿意为我承担责任的另一半，这样我也可以享受一下生活。——困惑的拉里

Dear Larry: A loving parent does not encourage an adult child to live like a little princess athome. Your wife is being selfish. If she cared more for Carol's welfare than her own emotionalneeds, she'd tell her daughter to find her own place. At the very least, Carol should be payingrent and taking care of her dogs, meals and laundry. Explain this to your wife, and tell her howclose you are to walking out.

亲爱的拉里： 慈爱的父母不应鼓励成年子女在家里像个小公主一样。你的妻子其实是很自私的。如果她真地关心卡罗尔的幸福和情感需要，她应告诉她的女儿独立生活。最起码，卡罗尔应自己支付房租、自己照顾狗、自己做饭、自己洗衣。把这些道理解释给你的妻子，并告诉她，若她做不到，你就会离开她。