The child' s happiness is al I-important, the psychologists say, but what about the parents' happiness? Parents suffer constantly from fear and guilt while their children gaily romp about pulling the place apart.A good old-fashioned spanking is out of the question: no modern child-rearing manual would permit such barbarity.The trouble is you are not allowed even to shout.Who knows what dccp psychological wounds you might inflict?Certainly a child needs love, and a lot of it. But the excessive permissiveness of modern parents is surely doing more harm than good. 　

　　心理学家们说孩子的幸福是至关重要的，那么，父母们的幸福又如何呢?当孩子们欢蹦乱跳地嬉戏玩耍把家里闹个底儿朝天时，他们的父母却忍受着担心和负疚的折磨。要想像前人一样狠狠地揍他一顿屁股是根本不可能的了，因为现代育儿指南绝不会允许这种野蛮行径。麻烦的是，甚至连大声吼他一顿也不可以。谁能说清你这一吼会给孩子造成多么深的心灵创伤呢?诚然，孩子们需要爱，许许多多的爱，但是现代父母过度的娇纵绝对是弊大于利。