Most people, if asked, would probably say that they love themselves. But when you start to look at how they treat themselves, a different answer begins to emerge.
很多人，如果问他们的话，他们或许会说他们爱自己。但是当你观察他们怎么对待自己时候，或许会得到一个不同的答案。
Here are 7 things you won’t do if you really love yourself.
如果你真的爱自己，你不会做这七件事。
1. You won’t over commit
你不会做过度承诺
People who love themselves know how to say no to a lot of things so they can say yes to the things that are really important to them.
爱自己的人知道怎么拒绝很多事情，所以他们才能去做真正对自己重要的事情。
2. You won’t be afraid to ask for help
你不害怕寻求帮助
You love yourself enough to know when you need help or when you will be helping another by letting them get involved.
你足够爱自己，你知道什么时候自己需要帮助，或什么时候让别人进入自己的生活是有帮助的。
You know you don’t have to be all things to all people and you don’t have to do everything yourself.
你知道你不需要为所有人做所有事，你也不需要什么事都自己做。
commit /kə'mɪt/ v. 犯罪，做错事;承诺
important /ɪm'pɔ: t(ə)nt/ adj. 重要的，重大的
involve /ɪn'vɒlv/ v. 包含;牵涉
3. You won’t rely on others to make you happy
你不需要依靠别人让自己开心
Happiness is an inside job. If you wait for the perfect job, the perfect friend, a romantic outing planned by someone else – you may find yourself waiting to be happy.
幸福是一个关乎内在的事情。如果你等着一份完美的工作，一个完美的朋友，一次由别人计划的浪漫约会 — 你或许就会发现你在被动的等待幸福。
If you really love yourself, you will know what makes you happy.
如果你真的爱自己，你会知道什么会让你开心。
4. You won’t compare yourself to others
你不会把自己和别人做比较
They say “comparison is the thief of joy”. Comparing your life, your job, your success to someone else is a recipe for disaster. You don’t have all the information and know that it’s best to focus on yourself and stop the comparison game.
他们说“攀比会偷走快乐”。和别人攀比你的生活，你的工作，你的成功就是制造灾难。你不需要什么都知道也明白最好关注自身，停止攀比游戏。
rely on /rɪ'laɪ/ 依赖;依靠
perfect /ˈpɜ: fɪkt/ adj. 完美的;最好的
compare /kəm'peə/ v. 相比;比较
comparison /kəm'pærɪs(ə)n/ n. 比较;对照
recipe /'resɪpɪ/ n. 食谱;处方;秘诀
disaster /dɪ'zα: stə/ n. 灾难，灾祸
5. You won’t second guess your decisions
你不会重复猜疑自己的决定
While some people can make decisions quickly and others deliberate a long time, people who love themselves don’t second guess the decisions they make that can’t be undone.
当一些人能够迅速做出决定而另一些人犹豫再三，那些爱自己的人不会重复猜疑他们做下的决定会做不到。
You learn from decisions and might make different ones the next time, but you don’t spend time and energy second guessing yourself.
你可以从自己做的决定中吸取教训，下次可能会做出不同的选择，但是你不要浪漫时间和精力重复猜疑自己。
6. You won’t feel guilty for taking “me time”
你不会因为有“自我时间”感到内疚
When you fly, they always remind you that “in the case of an emergency, put the oxygen mask on yourself before helping others.” People who love themselves realize that that applies to everyday life as well.
当你坐飞机时，他们总是提醒你“以防紧急情况，在帮助别人之前先戴上自己的氧气罩。”爱自己的人意识到这同样适用于每天的日常生活。
Taking some “me time” to do things you enjoy and that renew you isn’tselfish, it’s vital.
用一些“自我时间”做一些自己喜欢的事，还可以充实自己，这并不是自私，这是很重要的。
decision /dɪ'sɪʒ(ə)n/ n. 决定，决心
deliberate /dɪ'lɪb(ə)rət/ adj. 故意的;深思熟虑的
undone /ʌn'dʌn/ adj. 破灭的;未完成的
guilty /'gɪltɪ/ adj. 有罪的;内疚的
remind /rɪ'maɪnd/ v. 提醒;使想起
emergency /ɪ'mɜ: dʒ(ə)nsɪ/ n. 紧急情况;突发事件
oxygen /'ɒksɪdʒ(ə)n/ n. 氧气
selfish /'selfɪʃ/ adj. 自私的;利己主义的
vital /'vaɪt(ə)l/ adj. 至关重要的
7. You won’t beat yourself up for making a mistake
你不会因为自己犯了错而“痛打”自己
You forgive yourself, just as you forgive others, for making mistakes. Many people put so much pressure on themselves to be perfect and then beat themselves up when they aren’t – not you! Because you love yourself, you know that you are human and that you can learn from your mistakes.
你原谅自己，就像你原谅别人犯了错一样。很多人给自己太大压力一定要完美，当自己无法做到时就会自我厌弃，那不是你!因为你爱自己，你知道你是人，你可以从自己错误中学习。
The best form of self love is self-awareness, seeing when you are being unloving towards yourself and changing course.
自爱的最好的形式是自我意识，能察觉到你不爱自己，然后做出改变。
Loving yourself doesn’t mean you are perfect, it means you take care of yourself, are kind to yourself and show up in the world as best way you can every day.
爱自己并意味你是完美的，这意味着你照顾自己，对自己友善，并每天能够以自己最好的状态面对这个世界。
mistake /mɪ'steɪk/ n. 错误;误会
forgive /fə'gɪv/ v. 原谅;免除
pressure /'preʃə/ n. 压力;压迫
self-awareness /,selfə'weənis/ n. 自我意识
towards /tə'wɔ: dz/ prep. 朝，向;对于
