在2019年的美国，最令人感到困惑的观念，就是，钱等于快乐。要是我在油管上说这些，就会有人评论说，呵呵，他说得倒轻巧，说什么即使我很有钱，即使我拥有法拉利，我也会伤心。等到你有了法拉利再说吧。
And when you have money and you're sad as fu*k, real bad sh*t happens. 'cause that sh*t goes from Cognac and weed to cocaine and guns in your fu*king mouth. My friends, it is time, once and for all, to fu*king cut the bullsh*t. We need to start talking about happiness. My friends, until our society, and this country especially, redefines success in being happy, not being rich, everybody will continue to go down the path that we're seeing in our society of depression, anxiety, drugs.
等到你真正有钱了，你也会很难过，会遇到很多糟糕的事情，因为你会喝名酒，抽大麻，吸毒。朋友们，是时候停止这一切了，我们需要认真谈谈什么是快乐。朋友们，如果全社会，尤其是美国社会，再不重新定义成功和快乐，不在快乐和有钱之间划等号，那么我们现在面临的问题，比如抑郁，焦虑，毒品，它们还会继续存在。
You have to be honest with yourself, 'cause if you're incapable of that, you have no prayer of happiness. And being honest with yourself is hard. My friends, we are so good at casting judgement on everybody else. We're unstoppable at that. Keyboard warriors on Twitter? We're not doing that to ourselves. More importantly, how do you start chipping away in a world where you were parented, or your environment made you that way?
你必须对自己坦诚一点，因为如果你做不到这样，你就别指望快乐了。对自己坦诚，确实很难做到。朋友们，我们总是不停地评判别人，我们在网上当键盘侠，评论别人，但是我们却不评判自己。更重要的是，你在这个环境里长大，环境塑造了你，你怎样才能摆脱这一切的影响？
There are people right now that are living their life, still in their 40s and 50s, based on the opinion of their parents. They think they're doing the right thing‘cause they're fucking actually love their parents. I get it. I love my parents so uncomfortably much. It scares me. But they live it because they're appeasing lawyer, two kids, living in this area, doing this job, don't take risks 'cause we told you not to. We came from a generation that didn't, so you're doing that.
有些人，已经四五十岁了，还在照父母的意愿生活。他们觉得这样做没问题，因为他们很爱父母。我理解这种想法，我也很爱我的父母，爱到极致。但那些人这样活着，是因为他们是律师，有两个孩子，有房子，有工作，不敢冒险，因为父母告诉他们不要冒险。父母说，我们在你这个年纪时也没冒险，所以你这样做没错。
Or I was once an entrepreneur and fucked it up, and so we were scared, so now you don't do that. They live for their parents. They think it's good 'cause everything's good 'cause you're doing what your parents want. You feel like it's good. And then, life keeps going. Then what starts happening is they start to resent their parents, because now they're popping to their 50th birthday, their 60th birthday, their 65th birthday. They get a health scare and they're like, I'm not doing what I wanna be doing.
或者，父母会告诉他们，以前我也试过创业，但是失败了，所以我们很害怕失败，所以你也不要冒险创业。他们为自己的父母而活，他们认为这样挺好的，因为一切都是父母想要的样子。你觉得这样挺好的，生活就这样继续下去。但是，后来，这些人却开始恨自己的父母，因为他们自己已经五六十岁了，身体不再硬朗，这个时候才发现，自己做的事情，并不是自己想要的。
People here are in debt, or can't do something because they're just staying above ground, but that's because they bought a house that was too expensive, not using rooms, in that house, and they don't have the humility, to sell that house and go back to rent, because they don't want their friend from high school, or their grandma, to judge them, because we manifested that you have to own a home. And if you did, and now you're not just staying above water, and you sold that home, and moved into a shittier neighborhood, or a smaller house, or rented, now your actual life can open up but no. The ideology of owning a home, and the inability to take a step backwards to take 3 steps forward, is gonna make you unhappy till the end.
人们背着一身债，做不成什么事，因为他们做事求稳，但这又是因为他们买的房子太贵了，房子太大，空间太多，用不完，他们不够谦卑，做不到把房子卖掉，重新开始租房，因为他们不想被自己的奶奶或高中同学议论，因为别人告诉他们，必须要有房。如果你有房，你就稳定了，但你后来又买了房，搬到差一点的地区，或者住进小一点的房子，或者租房，那么你的生活就会真正重新开始。然而，你做不到。要有房，不要想着冒险，不要想着以小博大，这种观念，让你这辈子都无法开心起来。
I'm watching real deep sadness and it's not because of social media. Social media is not making you sad. Your insecurity is making you sad. There's no hack. There's no passive income. There's no system. You wanna build something? It's hard work and talent. Every person in here that's not 100% happy, including myself, is not doing something because of judgment of somebody else. 100%. You wanna fucking win in life? Fall in love with losing because most people here are scared of it.
我看到很多人非常难过，这不是社交媒体惹的祸。让你难过的，不是社交媒体，而是你的不安。一蹴而就，不劳而获，稳定的体制，这些都是不存在的。你想有所成就？只能靠努力和天赋。在场的人中，那些并非完全快乐的人，包括我自己，都是因为害怕别人议论而不敢做自己想做的事。你想成为人生赢家吗？爱上失败吧，因为在场的很多人都害怕失败。
The number one unlock to happiness in this room, is to go out there after this talk, and get naked about your vulnerabilities, what you suck at, take a step back, go humble. This is about losing and humility at the forefront, and nobody's talking about it. Every single other person talking is talking about fake it till you make it, winning at all costs, look the part before you are. Everybody here's trying to change the world. Change yourself first. So stop making judgement on the past, and start being practical on what you can do, instead of dwelling on what you can't do.
快乐的唯一秘诀，就是在这场讲座之后，走出去，勇敢面对自己的弱点，往后退一步，学会谦虚。这和面对失败有关，和学会谦虚有关，但是没人重视这个道理。所有人谈论的，都是如何掩饰自己，如何不惜一切代价获胜，如何高瞻远瞩。所有人都想改变世界，但是先改变你自己吧。所以，不要根据过去的事情来下结论，开始变得实际一点，做自己能做到的事，而不是纠结自己做不到的事。
