在Facebook等社交媒体网络上，你可能会觉得，很多人有几百个甚至几千个朋友。但是，研究表明，在生活中，人们只跟少数几个人保持密切联系。真正的友谊需要时间去培养，真正的朋友拥有一些特点和习惯，这让他们像我们的家人一样。那么，让我们来看一下真正的朋友有哪些特征吧！
Number 1 - They accept you as you are. A true friend won't try to change you. They embrace everything about you, from your flaws to your best personality traits. They may not agree with or like everything that you say or do, but they won't bash you or try to change your personality. They simply accept you as you are!
第一，他们接纳最真实的你。一个真正的朋友不会试图改变你，他们接纳你的一切，无论是你的小缺点，还是你的闪光点。也许，他们并不完全认同你的观点或者你的行为，但是他们不会打击你，不会尝试改变你的性格。他们接纳最真实的你！
Number 2 - They really listen. How many times have you tried to have a conversation with someone, about something that is important to you, and that person keeps turning the topic back to him or herself? You somehow don't find these conversations fulfilling. But, when you have a conversation with a real friend, they aren't one-sided. You find that your friend really listens to you. They don't talk over you, misunderstand what you are saying, or try to hog the attention in the conversation. They open themselves up to listening, really listening, with the intent to understand your thoughts and feelings.
第二，他们乐于倾听。你肯定遇到过这种情况，你想和某人说一件很重要的事，但是对方却不断地谈论他（她）自己，你会莫名其妙地感到这种交流没什么意思。但是，如果你是在跟真正的朋友交流，他们不会这样做。你会发现，你的朋友非常乐意倾听你的观点。他们不会尝试说服你，不会误解你，也不会把话题引到他们自己身上。他们敞开心扉，聆听你的心声，他们想理解你的想法和感受。
Number 3 - They don't gossip. Real friends will never talk bad about you behind your back. They will always confront you personally if they need to talk. They respect you and won't spread rumors and tarnish your reputation behind your back. They would rather talk face-to-face and resolve any issues they may have.
第三，他们不会说闲话。真正的朋友不会在背后说你的坏话，如果他们需要沟通，他们会亲自跟你交流。他们尊重你，不会到处造谣，不会在背后诋毁你，他们会选择面对面交流来解决问题。
Number 4 - They stick with you. This probably best distinguishes a real friend from a fake one. A true friend will never leave you just because you're going through a rough patch. They will laugh with you through the good times but then cry with you through the bad ones. They will stick by your side and help you through the darkness. They will offer to help however they can. In today's world of flaky, fake friendships, you should genuinely cherish those who are really there for you. These are the people you will want to keep in your life, as they are definitely genuine friends who want the best for you and care about your well-being. They understand that you can't always deal with all of life's curveballs all by yourself, so they have your back, no matter what.
第四，他们一直都在。这可能是真朋友和假朋友的最大区别，真正的朋友从不会因为你过得不好而离开你。你一帆风顺时，他们陪你笑。你人生失意时，他们陪你哭。他们一直陪在你身边，帮你走出黑暗，他们会尽最大的努力帮助你。在这个尔虞我诈的世界里，你真的应该珍惜那些一直陪伴着你的人。他们是你要一直留在身边的人，因为他们是真正的朋友，他们想让你过得更好，他们在乎你的幸福。他们知道，你不可能总是自己承担人生的风雨，所以，无论如何，他们都会支持你。
Number 5 - They make time for you. Real friends will never blow you off or tell you that they're too busy for you. They don't just talk to you when it's convenient. Yes, they might have to rearrange their schedule a bit, but they will never use lack of time or other commitments as an excuse not to see you. A true friend will usually follow through with their promises to you no matter how busy life gets, and you never feel like you have to chase them in order to keep them in your life.
第五，他们愿意为你留出时间。真正的朋友从来不会让你失望，不会跟你说他们太忙了没空理你，不会在有空的时候才想起你。确实，为了见你，他们可能要临时改变一下自己的安排，但是他们从不会用没时间之类的借口来敷衍你。无论多忙，真正的朋友都会说到做到，你不用为了留住他们而放低自己的姿态。
Number 6 - They don't hold grudges. A real friend is aware that nobody is perfect. When you're with them, you don't feel like you have to walk on eggshells to gain their approval. They understand that you muck up every now and then, and you don't have to offer a long apology. They just put it behind them, because they know that you have good intentions despite whatever mistakes you make.
第六，他们不会抱怨。真正的朋友知道，没有人是完美的。跟真正的朋友相处，你不需要小心翼翼，唯恐他们对你产生不满。他们知道有时候你可能会犯点小错误，但是你不需要忐忑地道歉。这点小事，他们转眼就忘了，因为他们知道，就算你犯了点错误，你的本意还是好的。
Number 7 - You're comfortable around them. Being completely comfortable is a sign of true friendship. You can act silly and let your guard down and you never have to think twice about doing so. You can tell each other anything and you don't have to censor yourselves. You don't have to fake laugh or force conversations. Everything just seems to flow effortlessly between the two of you. A true friend wants to know your secrets, your wildest dreams, embarrassing stories, and things you wouldn't share with just anyone. They want to know you to your core!
第七，跟他们在一起时，你感到很自在。相处自在，是真正的友谊的特征。在他们面前，你可以自由自在地犯傻，放下戒备。你们之间可以诉说任何事情，你不会有所顾忌。你不需要强颜欢笑，不需要说违心话，你们的相处非常自然。真正的朋友想知道你的秘密，你最疯狂的幻想，你的糗事，还有其它你不想跟任何人提及的事情。真正的朋友想充分地了解你！
Number 8 - They see the best in you. One of our greatest faults can be our negative self-criticism, but true friends lift us up when we're down. Our closest friends are the ones who beg to differ when our self-opinion starts getting low. When you feel ugly, your friend reminds you of your beauty. When you feel talentless, your friend reminds you of your many skills. A real friend can see the positive things about you, even when you don't see them yourself.
第八，他们看得到你的闪光点。我们对自己太挑剔，这也许是我们最大的缺点。但是，真正的朋友，在我们失意时伸出援手。最亲近的朋友，能够在我们不自信时给我们勇气。当你觉得自己不好看时，但真正的朋友会告诉你，你很美。当你觉得自己一无是处时，但真正的朋友会告诉你，你很能干。也许你看不到自己的闪光点，但真正的朋友能看到。
Number 9 - They tell it like it is. They don't tell you what you want to hear. Not just for arguments sake, but they will tell you when you are actually wrong. They tell you the truth, even if it may hurt, not because they want to make you feel bad, but rather to help you make better choices in your life and become a better person. You've learned to appreciate this because not many people in life will tell it like it is.
第九，他们很坦诚。真正的朋友不会单纯地说那些你乐意听的话。在你犯错误时，他们会告诉你，这并不是故意要跟你吵架。就算他们知道你可能会手上，他们也会告诉你真相，这并不是为了让你感到难过，而是想帮你做出更好的选择，帮你成为更好的人。你要珍惜这样的朋友，因为并不是每个人都会跟你讲真话。
Number 10 - They don't get jealous. A real friend is confident in the bond that you share, and they will never try to control you. They understand that you don't have to be in their company around the clock in order to validate the friendship, and they give you the freedom to pursue other friendships and activities in your life. Few people will genuinely be happy for your success. In fact, most people around you will be jealous or envious. But true friends will actually be happy for you and push you to achieve even greater heights.
第十，他们不会嫉妒。真正的朋友对你们的友谊有信心，他们不会想控制你。他们不需要你每时每刻陪在他们身边来证明这份友谊，他们给你充分的自由，你可以跟其他人交朋友，你可以参加其他的活动。你成功的时候，很少人会由衷地感到开心，事实上，你身边的大多数人会感到嫉妒。但是，真正的朋友会为你感到开心，并且鼓励你去追求更高的理想。
