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Whether you’re one of the 40 million people looking for love on a dating website or just chatting with a cute someone, make your messages must-reads!

You Will NeedA positive attitude
And confidence

Step 1: Be positive    态度积极
Be positive. The fastest way to end flirty banter is to be Debbie Downer.

Step 2: Be confident     自信
Sound confident—even if you’re not. People are attracted to self-assurance.

Step 3: Be funny     幽默风趣
Use humor. If witty repartee isn’t your strong suit, repeat something someone else said that you found funny, or share something amusing you read in the paper.

Step 4: Be brief     信息简明扼要
Keep messages brief—you want to retain an aura of mystery.

Ask lots of general questions like, “If you could go anywhere, where would you go?”—people love to talk about themselves.

Step 5: Avoid baring your soul     不要毫不保留自己的想法
Avoid intense, soul-baring discussions that might scare people off.

Step 6: Be observant    善意观察
Be observant about the details in their profile, and ask follow-up questions to things they mention in messages to you. It shows you’re sincerely interested—and not self-obsessed.

Step 7: Give compliments    谨慎发出邀请
Dole out the compliments. Who doesn’t want to hear nice things? If you saw them on a dating site, mention their impressive resume. If you met in person, gush about something they said or did. But be sincere.

Use spell-check and re-read your message before pressing “send”—stupidity is a real turnoff!

Step 8: Don't get discouraged     不要气馁
Don’t get discouraged. You’re not going to be compatible with everyone. Cut your losses and move on to the next hottie.

Couples who meet on the dating site Match.com tend to date for a shorter period before getting married than couples who meet in more traditional ways.
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 brief

    adj.1.简洁的, 简短的
         She had time to give a brief report.
         她有时间做一个简短的报告。
         Time is limited, please be brief.
         时间有限, 请讲得简洁些。
         He's brief of speech.
         他的话简短扼要。
       2.简明的，表达简洁的，简要的，篇幅简短的，三言两语的

intense

     adj.1.强烈的, 剧烈的; 极端的
           Susan was an intense young lady.
           苏珊是一个热情的年轻姑娘。
          Her dislike for Dick was intense.
           她对迪克怀有强烈的憎恶。
          2.热情的, 热切的
          The patient has an intense will to recover.
          那个病人热切地希望恢复健康。

observant

     adj.1.善于观察的;观察力敏锐的
          The scientist’s observant eye noticed the slightest details.
          这位科学家的敏锐目光观察到了最微小的细节。
          She was intelligent and highly observant.
          她聪明并且很有观察力。
           2.严守教规的
          You should be observant of the traffic rules.
         你应该遵守交通规则。