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If you’re like a lot of guys, you might stumble a bit when talking to girls. But you don’t have to.
You Will Need
* A girl to talk to
* Listening skills
* Confidence

Step 1: Listen to her 认真听她说话
Actively listen when you’re talking to a girl and focus on what’s important to her.

Step 2: Ask questions 适当地问些问题，以表示你对她感兴趣
Ask questions that show you’re interested. Ask her to expand on something she told you about herself.

Maintain eye contact when you’re talking to show you’re interested in her.

Step 3: Ask open-ended questions 问一些开放性的问题，是或否这样无聊的问题要少问
Ask open-ended questions that might have simple answers, but might also allow you to strike up a conversation.

Avoid questions that have “yes” or “no” answers. You don’t want to play 20 questions.

Step 4: Be confident 要自信，但不要自大
Act confidently, but don’t be cocky. Body language says a lot about confidence, so stand up straight and practice good posture.

Step 5: Talk clearly with strength 谈话要显示出男人的力度，但不要太过
Speak clearly and with authority. This doesn’t mean you should talk like a police officer, but make sure she hears you and can tell you believe what you’re saying. Be direct and to the point.

Showing passion about things you care about is good, but don’t overdo it.

Step 6: Keep the conversation light 避免谈论宗教信仰等一些会有争议的话题
Keep the conversation light while you’re getting to know her. Avoid controversial topics, like religion and politics, and sad or profound topics, like death. Start on a lighter note. You want her to remember you fondly, not as a potential threat.

Step 7: Be yourself 不要虚伪，把真实的你展示给她
Be yourself. That’s who you want her to like.

Did You Know? A study found that of 114 Americans who had been romantically rejected in the eight weeks prior to the study, 40 percent were clinically depressed.