我第一次遇见他时，觉得他很完美，很有绅士风度。走在前面为我开门，在餐厅吃饭为我拉椅子。他绝对是个不可多得的新好男人。但是交往一段时间后，我发现他对“新好男人”的标准似乎和我的有些不一样。

男：来，我帮你拿包。

女：不用了，这又不重。

男：没关系，我是你男朋友啊。我两手空空，你却拎个包，那多不好。

女：我自己的包还是我自己来拎吧。

男：如果你拎着它，我的朋友看见了，一定会觉得我很不绅士，很不体贴。

女：你是因为关心我而想帮我拎包，还是因为在乎朋友怎么看你而帮我拎包？

男：我当然是因为关心你才想帮你拎包了。

女：那我明确地和你说了，这个包不重，我可以自己拎。

男：哎……想当好男人真难！

 

 

When I met him for the first time, I feel he was a perfect gentleman. He would open the door for me and pull out chair for me in restaurant. He is definitely a rare good man. After we kept a relationship for a period of time, I found that his standards for good man seem different to mine.

Male: Come on. I’ll help you with the bag.

 

Female: Never mind. It’s not heavy.

 

Male: That’s alright. I’m your boyfriend. If you carry a bag while my hands are empty, that’d be bad.”

 

Female: It’s my own bag and I will do it myself.”

 

Female: If my friends see you carrying a bag instead of me, they would think I’m not a gentleman at all.”

 

Female: Do you carry my bag for me because you really care for me or because you care about what your friends think of you?

 

Male: Of course I care for you.

 

Female: This bag is light and I can do it myself. Do I make myself clear?

 

Male: Ah…It’s really hard to be a good man!