你有没有想过为什么要成为父母?

Those who wrestled with the decision or struggled to conceive a child have probably thought about it a good deal. And some have always known the answer, maybe since they were kids themselves.

那些纠结于这个决定或者努力想要一个孩子的人可能已经考虑了很多。有些人一直都知道答案，也许从他们自己还是孩子的时候就知道了。

But for many parents and would-be parents, the question may seem odd ,which makes it a great question to be tackled.

但对于许多父母和准父母来说，这个问题可能看起来很奇怪,是一个需要解决的大问题。

Whatever your reason, it says something important about you and about the kind of parent you are or hope to be. I think it's worth exploring.

无论你的理由是什么，它都表明了一些关于你的重要的事情，关于你是什么样的父母或者你希望成为什么样的父母。我认为这是值得探索的。

You are the parenting expert you've been looking for

你是你一直在寻找的育儿专家

Why did you decide to have children? Why do you want one, or a second or third? What is it about your personal desires, history, influences and beliefs that led to such a major life decision? Why spend so much time and money, and take on all that additional stress, anxiety and responsibility?

你为什么决定要孩子?为什么你想要一个，第二个或第三个?你个人的欲望、历史、影响和信仰是什么导致你做出如此重大的人生决定?为什么要花那么多时间和金钱，还要承担那么多额外的压力、焦虑和责任?

Knowing why you got into this game can give you the insight needed to play it to the best of your ability. You are your own best guide to navigating the million and one parenting questions, conundrums and choices you will face from here on out.

知道你为什么会进入这场游戏可以给你足够的洞察力来发挥你的最大能力。从现在开始，你将面对无数的育儿问题、难题和选择，你是你自己最好的向导。

Here are the answers from different people:

这是不同人大答案：

Re-create my own childhood joys

·重新创造我自己的童年快乐

Grow and share familial love

成长并分享家庭之爱

Make myself a better person

让自己成为一个更好的人

Start my own family after being on my own for a long time

在独自生活了很长一段时间后，组建自己的家庭

Add to a greater sense of life's purpose

让你对人生的目标有更深刻的认识

Fit in and meet society's expectations

适应和满足社会的期望

Because kids are fun to hang out with and talk to

因为和孩子们一起玩和聊天很有趣

Help make the world a better place

让世界变得更美好

Be a better parent than I had

做一个比我更好的父母

A spiritual call to action

对行动的精神召唤

Repay what I owe my parents

偿还我欠父母的

Give in to a biological urge

屈服于生理冲动

Put your answer to good use

好好利用你的答案

"Mindful parenting" is one of the most enlightened trends in the history of parenting techniques. It's about being present with your children but also better understanding your motivations and feelings while parenting. Getting in touch with your motivation for becoming a parent gives you a perspective too often lacking at difficult parenting moments.

“用心育儿”是育儿技术历史上最具启发性的趋势之一。关于与你的孩子在一起，同时也更好地了解做父母的动机和感受。接触你成为父母的动机给了你一个在困难的育儿时刻经常缺乏的视角。

New CNN Parenting column: Go Ask Your Dad

CNN育儿专栏:去问问你爸爸

This column, The Wisdom Project, is getting a spinoff series called Go Ask Your Dad, about parenting wisdom. There is no shortage of parenting advice out there -- professional, familial, terrible -- but there is not enough that looks beyond the new trend or list of tips to get at what we want out of life for ourselves and our children.

这个专栏名为“智慧计划”，即将推出一个名为《去问你爸爸》的衍生系列，讲述为人父母的智慧。虽然不乏专业的、家庭的、糟糕透顶的育儿建议，但要想让自己和孩子从生活中得到我们想要的东西，除了新潮流或一系列建议外，这些建议还远远不够。