A Complaint free, Happier Life　不抱怨，生活会更快乐

◎ Jonathan Mead


Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving. —Dale Carnegie
If we really want to be happy, why do we act like such babies?
We can claim to be proactive in our life by settings goals and going after what we want. But if we’re always whining and complaining all the time, are we really living effectively?
If you don’t believe me, count how many times you complain about something or other in one day. Whether it is being stuck in traffic, being bothered by the weather, not enough mustard on your sandwich, or whatever it is, there are endless instances where you can find a reason to complain.
But it’s not just outside circumstances that we complain about. We complain about ourselves too. We complain that we don’t have enough time, we don’t have enough money (this one is huge because it’s often “true”), that we’re not smart enough, cool enough, or just enough.
I know I’ve experienced plenty of unpleasantness due to complaining about things I can’t control. I never really thought about it much until I found this website about “living in a complain free world”.
Imagine how much happier you would be if you simply stopped complaining? Much of what you complain about is outside of your control anyway. What’s the point of brooding about something you have no power to change? Not very intelligent, if you ask me.
Simply becoming conscious of how much you complain is the first step to stopping. When you recognize that you’re complaining, stop and take notice of it. Ask yourself if you would rather complain, or be happy.
Are you ready to live a complaint-free, happier life?


任何傻子都会批评、蔑视和抱怨，但是理解和宽容却需要品格和自制力。
——戴尔·卡耐基
如果我们真的想要快乐，为什么还表现得像个婴儿一样呢？
我们设定目标并朝之奋进，可以说是积极地对待生活。但如果我们整天满腹牢骚、怨天尤人，我们还会活得有效率吗？
如果你不信，数一数你一天之内要抱怨多少次。抱怨堵车，抱怨天气，抱怨三明治的芥末不够，或者其他什么，总之你能在生活中找到无数的烦心事让我们抱怨。
除了抱怨外部环境，我们还不断抱怨我们自己。抱怨自己没有足够的时间，没有足够的钱（抱怨后者的人最多，而且常常也是事实），我们还嫌弃自己不够聪明，不够出色，反正什么都不够好。
我们总是抱怨自己无法控制的事情，这让我经历了太多的苦难。以前我从没想过这个问题，直到我发现这个“活在没有抱怨的世界”的网站。
想想吧，只要你停止抱怨，你会变得多么幸福？反正那些由外界控制的事情你又无力改变，纠缠这些无力改变的事情又有什么意义呢？你问我的话，我会说那样很蠢。
首先就是要意识到你有多喜欢抱怨，这也是停止抱怨的第一步。每当你意识到你又在抱怨时，停下来，问问自己是要变得快乐呢，还是继续这样抱怨下去。
你准备好去迎接一个没有抱怨、更加快乐的生活了吗？