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Getting to know someone takes time, but there are things you can do to get the communication flowing.

 

 

You Will Need

*You Will NeedConfidence
*Questions
*Listening skills
*Trust
*Patience

 

Step 1: Be confident 要自信，开诚布公会让你的伙伴更轻松
Be confident, be yourself, and accept who you are. Don’t pretend to likes things you don’t like, and don’t say things you don’t believe. Being open and honest will allow the other person to eel more relaxed around you.

Step 2: Ask questions 多了解对方的背景和喜好
Ask them questions about their background, what they do, what they like, and what they dislike. This will give you a better idea as to who the person is on the inside.

Step 3: Listen 注意倾听对方
Listen and give them your undivided attention. Doing this will show the person that you’re interested, and they will likely be more open.

Find common interests and expand your conversation around those.

Step 4: Share 懂得与别人分享你的喜悦忧伤
Share your feelings with each other. This will show the person that you’re open to discuss personal thoughts, and hopefully inspire them to reciprocate.

Step 5: Be trustworthy 做一个值得信赖的人
Be a trustworthy person they can confide in without worrying about whether you’ll judge them or spill their secrets.. Nothing pushes a person away like a lack of trust.

Keep shared information between yourselves.

Step 6: Be patient 要有耐心，慢慢的了解对方
Be patient and take your time getting to know someone. The investment you make now will pay off with a significantly more satisfying relationship.

The first developmental stage according to psychiatrist Erik Erikson, is trust versus mistrust. Erikson believed that if an infant cannot trust its caregivers, it may never grow to have trusting relationships.

 

[重点讲解]

trustworthy adj. 可靠的；可信赖的

He is a trustworthy fellow.

他是值得信赖的人。

developmental stage 发育阶段；发展阶段