Courteney Cox is reflecting on a difficult chapter in her current relationship.
柯特妮·考克斯正在反思她目前关系中艰难的一章。
While speaking with Minnie Driver on the Minnie Questions podcast, the Friends star recounted breaking up with her longtime partner, Snow Patrol musician Johnny McDaid, with whom she’s since reconciled. Cox cited their separation as a challenging experience that ultimately yielded great personal benefits in the long run. “Three years in, we broke up, and it was really intense,” she recalled. “We broke up in therapy. I didn’t know it was coming, whether I should have or not, it was just like, we went to this therapist to talk about our boundaries, what we could and couldn’t accept about each other.”
在Minnie Questions播客中，这位《老友记》的主演讲述了她与长期伴侣、雪巡乐队的音乐家约翰尼·麦克戴德分手的经历，后来两人又和好了。考克斯说，他们的分离是一段充满挑战的经历，但从长远来看，最终给他们带来了巨大的个人利益。“三年后，我们分手了，关系非常紧张，”她回忆说。“我们在治疗中分手了。我不知道它会来，也不知道我是否应该这样做，就像，我们去找治疗师谈谈我们的界限，我们能接受对方的什么，不能接受对方的什么。”
“Instead, he just broke up within the first minute, and I was like ‘What?’” Cox continued. “We were engaged, and I was so shocked, I was in so much pain. I also don’t like surprises, and he’s an incredible human being, so he wasn’t trying to surprise me. He was in that much pain in the relationship — there was that much that needed to be dealt with — that he had to protect himself around his heart.”
“相反，他在第一分钟就分手了，我当时就想‘什么?’”考克斯继续说道。“我们订婚了，我非常震惊，非常痛苦。我也不喜欢惊喜，他是个了不起的人，所以他不想给我惊喜。他在这段关系中承受了那么多痛苦——有那么多需要处理的事情——他不得不保护自己的心。”
The actress revealed that she continued seeing the same therapist from that fateful day. “I had a great therapist. I went to the same one, I kept seeing him, the one that we’d met on the breakup day,” she said. “It was brutal to go to his office after that for a while, but then it was great. And I’m really thankful a) nothing will ever hurt me that bad again, and then b) most of all, most importantly, I completely changed."
这位女演员透露，从那个决定命运的日子起，她一直在看同一个治疗师。“我有一个很棒的治疗师。我去了同一家店，我一直看到他，就是我们分手那天见过的那个人。”“在那之后的一段时间里，去他的办公室是很残忍的，但后来感觉很棒。我真的很感激a)再也没有什么能让我受到如此严重的伤害，然后b)最重要的是，我彻底改变了。”
Cox also explained how she used the opportunity for introspection and growth rather than resentment. “As opposed to going ‘f--- him,’ you know, getting in this mode of anger, I went in,” she said. “And I did the most work on myself, by far. I learned how to reclaim my voice, boundaries, what were my motives in life? Like, what was my part in this?"
考克斯还解释了她如何利用这个机会进行反省和成长，而不是怨恨。“你知道，我没有‘去他的’，没有陷入这种愤怒的状态，而是走了进去，”她说。“到目前为止，我在自己身上花的功夫最多。我学会了如何收回我的声音，界限，我生活的动机是什么?比如，我在其中扮演了什么角色?”
She said when the couple later got back together, "it was a different relationship" thanks to the work she had done on herself with the help of therapy. "It really taught me how I operated in the world. What were the things from my childhood that I needed, whether it was to be adored by men, or things I didn’t know how to let go [of] to be in a relationship. To not take things personally."
她说，当这对夫妇后来复合时，多亏了她在治疗的帮助下对自己所做的工作，“这是一种不同的关系”。“它真的教会了我如何在这个世界上运作。我童年时需要的东西是什么?是得到男人的崇拜，还是在一段关系中我不知道如何放手的东西?不要把事情往心里去。”
“And I’m thankful that Johnny was so bold and brave, ‘cause it was life-changing for me, and I’m sure for him,” Cox concluded.
考克斯总结道:“我很感激约翰尼如此大胆和勇敢，因为这改变了我的生活，我相信对他来说也是如此。”
柯特妮·考克斯正在反思她目前关系中艰难的一章。
While speaking with Minnie Driver on the Minnie Questions podcast, the Friends star recounted breaking up with her longtime partner, Snow Patrol musician Johnny McDaid, with whom she’s since reconciled. Cox cited their separation as a challenging experience that ultimately yielded great personal benefits in the long run. “Three years in, we broke up, and it was really intense,” she recalled. “We broke up in therapy. I didn’t know it was coming, whether I should have or not, it was just like, we went to this therapist to talk about our boundaries, what we could and couldn’t accept about each other.”
在Minnie Questions播客中，这位《老友记》的主演讲述了她与长期伴侣、雪巡乐队的音乐家约翰尼·麦克戴德分手的经历，后来两人又和好了。考克斯说，他们的分离是一段充满挑战的经历，但从长远来看，最终给他们带来了巨大的个人利益。“三年后，我们分手了，关系非常紧张，”她回忆说。“我们在治疗中分手了。我不知道它会来，也不知道我是否应该这样做，就像，我们去找治疗师谈谈我们的界限，我们能接受对方的什么，不能接受对方的什么。”
“Instead, he just broke up within the first minute, and I was like ‘What?’” Cox continued. “We were engaged, and I was so shocked, I was in so much pain. I also don’t like surprises, and he’s an incredible human being, so he wasn’t trying to surprise me. He was in that much pain in the relationship — there was that much that needed to be dealt with — that he had to protect himself around his heart.”
“相反，他在第一分钟就分手了，我当时就想‘什么?’”考克斯继续说道。“我们订婚了，我非常震惊，非常痛苦。我也不喜欢惊喜，他是个了不起的人，所以他不想给我惊喜。他在这段关系中承受了那么多痛苦——有那么多需要处理的事情——他不得不保护自己的心。”
The actress revealed that she continued seeing the same therapist from that fateful day. “I had a great therapist. I went to the same one, I kept seeing him, the one that we’d met on the breakup day,” she said. “It was brutal to go to his office after that for a while, but then it was great. And I’m really thankful a) nothing will ever hurt me that bad again, and then b) most of all, most importantly, I completely changed."
这位女演员透露，从那个决定命运的日子起，她一直在看同一个治疗师。“我有一个很棒的治疗师。我去了同一家店，我一直看到他，就是我们分手那天见过的那个人。”“在那之后的一段时间里，去他的办公室是很残忍的，但后来感觉很棒。我真的很感激a)再也没有什么能让我受到如此严重的伤害，然后b)最重要的是，我彻底改变了。”
Cox also explained how she used the opportunity for introspection and growth rather than resentment. “As opposed to going ‘f--- him,’ you know, getting in this mode of anger, I went in,” she said. “And I did the most work on myself, by far. I learned how to reclaim my voice, boundaries, what were my motives in life? Like, what was my part in this?"
考克斯还解释了她如何利用这个机会进行反省和成长，而不是怨恨。“你知道，我没有‘去他的’，没有陷入这种愤怒的状态，而是走了进去，”她说。“到目前为止，我在自己身上花的功夫最多。我学会了如何收回我的声音，界限，我生活的动机是什么?比如，我在其中扮演了什么角色?”
She said when the couple later got back together, "it was a different relationship" thanks to the work she had done on herself with the help of therapy. "It really taught me how I operated in the world. What were the things from my childhood that I needed, whether it was to be adored by men, or things I didn’t know how to let go [of] to be in a relationship. To not take things personally."
她说，当这对夫妇后来复合时，多亏了她在治疗的帮助下对自己所做的工作，“这是一种不同的关系”。“它真的教会了我如何在这个世界上运作。我童年时需要的东西是什么?是得到男人的崇拜，还是在一段关系中我不知道如何放手的东西?不要把事情往心里去。”
“And I’m thankful that Johnny was so bold and brave, ‘cause it was life-changing for me, and I’m sure for him,” Cox concluded.
考克斯总结道:“我很感激约翰尼如此大胆和勇敢，因为这改变了我的生活，我相信对他来说也是如此。”
