第七章
He's Just Not That Into You If He Doesn't Want toMarry You
如果他不想跟你结婚，那他其实没有那么喜欢你
Love Cures Commitment-Phobia
爱可以治愈承诺恐惧症
Just remember this. Every man you have ever datedwho has said he doesn't want to get married ordoesn't believe in marriage, or has "issues" with marriage, will, rest assured, someday bemarried.
记住。你约会过的任何说不想结婚、不相信婚姻或者是有婚姻问题的男人，总有一天一定会结婚。
It just will never be with you. Because he's not really saying he doesn't want to get married.He's saying he doesn't want to get married to you.
只不过永远不是跟你。因为他并非是说不想结婚，而是不想跟你结婚。
There is nothing wrong with wanting to get married.
想结婚并没有什么错。
You shouldn't feel ashamed, needy, or "unliberated" for wanting that.
你不应该为此而感到羞耻，急色或者约束。
So make sure from the start that you pick a guy who shares your views for the future, and ifnot, move on as quickly as you can.
所以你开始就要确定选的是一个跟你未来打算一致的男人，否则就赶紧分手找过。
Big plans require big action.
大计划需要大动作。
The "Things Are Really Tight Right Now" Excuse
“当前形势真的很紧张”的借口
Dear Greg, I have a boyfriend who I've been living with for three years.
亲爱的格雷格，我有一个同居3年的男友。
I'm about to turn thirty-nine, and I have started bringing up the idea of long-term plans, like,say, marriage.
我快39岁了，我已经开始提出长久的计划，比如说结婚。
He always seems open to it, but then talks about how bad his finances are.
他总是看起来对此开诚布公，但是接着又开始说他的未婚妻有多糟糕。
He's an investment banker who works for himself, and he lost a lot of money in the past twoyears, a lot of clients, as well, and his business really has gone down the tubes.
他是一个自主投资银行家，在过去的两年里，他亏损了很多钱，流失了很多客户，他的生意一落千丈。
He says he's under a lot of pressure.
他说他压力很大。
Am I being unreasonable to want to know where this is all going? Please let me know.
我想知道事情会如何发展是不近人情么?请告诉我。
Signed Barbara
芭芭拉
