在TED演讲节目中，演讲者清晰的口语表达及其内容的写作手法都是值得我们学习借鉴的。在亲子关系里，父母总是占据着主导的地位，但其实父母也会犯错。本期的TED演讲告诉我们，父母的干预很可能是错误的，并且承认自己做错也并不难。下面请结合视频内容，开始口语学习吧！

原文及翻译

There is no such thing as a perfect parent. Mistakes and struggles, come with the job. Repair assumes there's been a rupture, so to repair, you have to mess up, which means the next time I snap at my kid, instead of berating myself like I did that night in the kitchen, I try to remind myself, I'm focusing on getting good at repair. 

世上没有完美的父母。做父母难免会犯错，也会遇到困难。修复的前提是双方关系已经破裂，所以要想修复，就必须把事情搞砸，这意味着下次我发脾气时，我不会像那天晚上在厨房里那样责骂自己，而是试着提醒自己，我要专注于修复。

Name what happened, take responsibility, and state what you would do differently the next time. It could come together like this: "I keep thinking about what happened the other night in the kitchen. I'm sorry I yelled. I'm sure that felt scary, and it wasn't your fault. I'm working on staying calm even when I'm frustrated." A 15-second intervention can have a lifelong impact. I've replaced my child's story of self-blame with a story of self-trust safety and connection.

说出发生了什么，承担责任，并说明下次你会做些什么不同的事情。可以这样说：“我一直在想那天晚上在厨房里发生的事情。我很抱歉我大喊大叫。我肯定那感觉很可怕，这不是你的错。我正在努力保持冷静，即使我很沮丧。” 15 秒的干预可能会产生终生影响。我已经用一个自我信任、安全和联系的故事取代了孩子的自责故事。

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